I can say it is pretty hard to think and trust while we have something to believe in blindly. We can trust someone blindly or we can walk away from the person we trust the most in a matter of seconds. Earning trust is like a pain in the ass. Consistency is required to go on with it. A continuous endeavor is required to build such a smooth flow.
Breaking the trust takes only a lie or betrayal or irresponsibility. One mistake can ruin everything you stand for with a person who trusted you a lot. There are 2 sides in trust, one is the person who is trusting and the other is the person who is trusted. When the relationship is strong, trust goes both ways.
I have seen people who don’t give a damn about trusting. They are just selfish in their own actions. Trusting a person can extend to infinite possibilities. Let me walk through the scenarios of trust.
When trust becomes nonhuman, we all need to trust one way or the other. We trust our surroundings to live in, the air we breathe, the road we drive through or walk on, the land we stand on, the house we live every day. Scientists may explain what holds us together and how can we stand, fly or ride on. Until we trust the equipment or the environment, we can never be able to be how we are. All these materials are constructed by others who we never saw or spoken to but still, we trust all those materials easily and use them to live our life. This is the basic human trust we can have on each other to colonize our living.
No human is superior to others, we just trust another person as they can do it better than us. We use smartphones every day and also we purchase clothes, we go for shopping to buy ourselves new things to make ourselves trendy and keep updated with the current world. To live such kind of life, what we choose? What do we expect? We always go for a trusted brand which has the label of that company and simply we go ahead and take it without any objection.
This happens to all of us. That trust comes from your own experiences or maybe somebody told you or you watched a video promotion of the company somewhere in media.
My point in here is, we trust many unnoticeable things in our daily life and yet we say we don’t trust anything or anyone. We have been trusting thousands of people when without knowing them. Sometimes we fail to trust those who we love. This is an interesting part here, my question is why can’t you trust the person you love or why you broke your trust in someone who does little mistakes in your life? Trust is a primitive part of humans. We are preserving it on each other ever since the time humanity was born. Started from nothing with few humans on this land to be present as one of 7.3 Billion people can be a great achievement. As we grow our trust on others increases and us keep depending on others to lead our life.
For example, consider a mother with a son where she helps him to grow all the time in life by providing all kinds of information about the world and how it is, what she did is that she never let him go out and expose himself to it. If she controls her son even though after teaching everything about the world, there is no meaning of all those teachings to him. This problem I see in many parents where they never leave their children to get the taste of the world but they send their kids to karate classes. Why? What might be the reason?
After interviewing with parents, I got that they don’t trust their kids that they can handle the pressure of being exposed. They want to protect their children from the people but yet they want them to fight in life to achieve. The real problem is not about trusting their kids, the problem with them is that they fail to trust themselves and their teachings what they have give to their children.
Nobody can grow if they don’t face the world. Nobody can climb a tree without learning how to climb. Life never gets easier as long as we resist the situations we fear about. We need to let them experience few things that make them strong in life rather than telling them to stay away from it.
As long as we trust ourselves, it will be easier for us to trust others and let them who they want to be. Freedom comes from the trust. As long as we trust our instincts, we can trust others as well instead of resisting it. In our daily lives, we trust thousands without knowing but when it comes to the people we love, we think about trusting them.
I have an experience of trusting a person more than anything and got knocked by him for trusting but still, that knockdown thought me to trust others more. It helped me to trust myself more than trying others. When you trust a person and that goes wrong, it is not a bad thing. It helps you find your path where you can give room for other people to trust you and be with you. There is no betrayal in our problems. There is only survival. We only survive when we trust each other and move forward with life.
Trust humans, trust yourself. One day you will be able to see how beautiful this world becomes when we trust each other. Trust can be seen both ways as love and as a continuum. Never stop trusting.
